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The Couple That Works Out Together…

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One of my favorite things as a coach is seeing couples work out together. I love the idea that health and fitness is valued in a relationship and it is something enjoyed together. It is a wonderful way for couples to inspire and encourage each other and to give each other the gift of more happy, healthy years together.

But, working out together isn’t always so easy. And, to be frank, some couples are better at it than others.

At my gym I see a few different types of scenarios:

Overprotective Guy & Annoyed Gal – Guys are built to protect women. They just are. Some of them, however, are better at mediating their caveman ways than others. When I see couples in this scenario the guy is typically trying to teach his girlfriend/wife how to do all the movements, handing her the lightest weights, and over-coaching her. She then gets annoyed and tries to ignore him, which only causes him to coach more.

In general when I see this couple, I send them to opposite ends of the room and tell him he’s not allowed to coach her anymore. He’ll spend the rest of the workout peering over his shoulder checking on her and she’ll spend the rest of the workout oblivious to his presence in the room.

Bad-Ass Chica & Frequently Injured Guy – Like I said, I love couples who share a love for working out and especially the intense working out that comes with CrossFit. As anyone who follows CrossFit knows, though, there are women who really take to it and excel. Personally I think this has something to do with women not growing up trying to “muscle” their way through things and focusing instead on technique and finesse. On the flip side, guys with athletic backgrounds will come in with mobility issues and injuries and want to use heavy weights even when it’s not yet appropriate. They let their egos come into play a little more than women do.

So with these couples, when the girlfriends or wives start kicking major butt…suddenly we start seeing the guys less and less often. The female becomes hooked and the guy has too much work, too many injuries, or has another sport he wants to focus on. These are the sort of couples I think are actually best not working out together. Sometimes a thing is best shared by doing it separately.

Wonder Woman & Superman – I love these couples. These are the couples who are competitive, but in a supportive and productive way. They drive each other to be superheroes and are inspired by each other’s accomplishments. Sure, they probably talk some mad smack over the dinner table, but they do it because they love working out and they know it’s about having fun and becoming better athletes. They know their partner’s success is not a statement about them, instead they treat it with admiration. And on the days when we do partner or team workouts and these couples work out as a unit – all bets are off because their superpowers magnify when they are a unified front!

What’s even better is when these superhero couples bring their future firebreathers to my children’s classes. The only thing better than seeing a couple work out together in a positive, productive manner is seeing a whole family make it a priority and have FUN!

Do you work out with your significant other? Do you see yourself in one of these descriptions? Maybe you are not too excited about how things currently are when you work out with your girlfriend or boyfriend, but it doesn’t have to be that way. With some communication and reminding ourselves that other people’s successes don’t mean anything about us – that we can all succeed and the comparisons we imagine are only in our minds – then we can truly enjoy prioritizing health and fitness in our lives and share it with the people most important to us. The people with whom we’re actually going to share all these hard earned healthy happy years.

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Friday Link Love – Shameless Self Promotion Edition

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Typically Friday is about linking to other blogs, but this week’s link love is all about me!

It occurred to me, despite my sharing on Twitter and Facebook, readers may have missed some of my favorite articles.

So, periodically on Friday Link Love I’ll be posting my own stuff – not because I want to brag, but because I think these articles can either provide you with some needed information…or some needed delight.

Not Fit For Print! – Unpublished Chael Sonnen Interview

I interviewed UFC Fighter Chael Sonnen recently and wrote this article for a website on spec…and then the website decided they weren’t comfortable with the content. So, rather than waste this delight, I posted it on the Underground Forums.

Breaking Muscle – MMA 101: The Arts Behind Mixed Martial Arts

“Having been involved in Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) for almost a decade, I sometimes forget it is still a new sport to most people. As such, the concept of the sport may not be very clear for people encountering the sport for the first time. What exactly does the name mean – Mixed Martial Arts? What are the “arts” involved in MMA?”

NerdJockPrincess – The Nature of South Central

“The first day I moved to South Central I noticed a stench that filled the air outside my door. Two days later I realized it was the body of a dog rotting in the neighbor’s backyard. The flies persisted for weeks.

I was just finishing my first semester as a graduate student at USC. I lived in the overpriced university housing north of campus. For five hundred and fifty dollars a month I could stand in the center of my apartment and nearly touch three out of four walls without moving. My refrigerator came up to my thigh. The toilet never flushed properly. The mattress had what I told myself were not blood stains on the side I flipped down to face the floor.”

CrossFit Journal – Perspectives for a Successful CrossFit Kids Affiliate

“You want to create a program where children get fit, learn good movement patterns and have fun. You want to establish good nutrition habits and build the lifestyle of fitness from an early age. To create a successful program, you need to be able to approach these goals from two different standpoints—the concerns of the children and the concerns of the parents.”

Momtastic – What to Look for When Choosing a Gym for Your Child

“First and foremost before choosing a school or gym is to be clear about what your child’s goals are in this pursuit.  These goals can change over time, as can your choice of schools, but knowing going in will make your decisions much easier. Be it martial arts, gymnastics, wrestling, or dancing , there are competitive routes your child can take.  Is your child in pursuit of a career or college scholarship?  Or are they just exploring and want to have fun?”

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Need Post-Pregnancy Workout Advice?

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Exercise After Pregnancy

Last week I wrote about exercising during your pregnancy, but what about exercising AFTER pregnancy? Are there do’s and don’ts when it comes to that?

I asked my expert moms, Shannon, Norma and Agatha, who all train with me at CrossFit LA for their opinion and to share their experiences with us. Getting back into the routine of working out had two battlefront in their opinion – the physical aspects and then the mental aspects of dealing with a child and a new lifestyle.

Making a Physical Comeback

The physical aspects of recovering from pregnancy can be different for every woman, depending on her fitness level going into and during pregnancy, and whether or not she had natural childbirth or a C-section.

Says Norma, who underwent a C-section, “I couldn’t even imagine doing sit-ups. In fact, all the magazines, books and internet articles I read said to NOT do sit-ups. You have to let your abdominal muscles get back in place before you start doing any sit-ups.”

Instead Norma started walking. She started 2 weeks after her son was born and just walked down the block and back. By 4 weeks post-delivery she was walking 2-3 miles a day. By the time her son was 2 months old she had shed all her baby weight.

Agatha gave me this warning, “You definitely cannot expect to jump back in, as my cardio ability was pretty zonked and my strength had diminished. It was pretty discouraging at first, but then you realize what an amazing thing your body did.” Agatha also suggested focusing on back exercises due to the strain of carrying a baby around.

Making a Mental Comeback

Agatha had this to say about trying to juggle her newborn’s schedule with her desire to work out: “It is very hard to come back to the gym when the baby is breastfeeding. She would want to eat at least every two hours so it was impossible to time a trip to the gym. I would get so frustrated. It took until she was at least four months old for that to ease off, so I would just go when I could, and  try to do DVDs or go for a run if I couldn’t’ go to the gym.”

Norma also believed that exercise helped her avoid more severe postpartum depression. “I went through it,” she said, “but I knew that exercise would bring me back up. Endorphins are amazing. So that was what I looked forward to the most every single day.”

Shannon expressed a similar experience, saying, “Get back into it as soon as you can! It will help your mood and give you a little energy after MANY sleepless nights!”

…and the Unexpected Benefit of a Newborn?

“My arms look good since I have to carry a 16 pound baby around!” said Agatha.

My Coaching Tips for Getting Back to Exercise After Pregnancy

  • Scale your way back in – remember your body has just been through a lot and it will take some time to get back up to the activity and strength level you had prior to pregnancy.
  • Be reasonable with yourself – the first few months can be a stressful time of motherhood. Be patient with yourself and with your schedule.
  • Just move – exercise doesn’t have to look like going to the gym to “count.” Just get out and walk, do some squats in the living room, or buy some yoga or Pilates DVD
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Top Tips for Working Out While Pregnant

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As a fitness coach, I have worked with a number of clients before, during, and after pregnancy. It is a time of excitement, but also a time that brings a lot of worry and questions. The last thing any mother wants to do is think she did something “wrong” during pregnancy or somehow harmed her unborn baby. Yet, at the same time, pregnancy and childbirth are perhaps the most strenuous things a woman’s body will ever go through. It only makes sense that being fit would make the experience a better, safer one.

I spoke with three of the mothers I have worked with at my gym, CrossFit LA.  All three moms, Shannon, Agatha, and Norma trained with us before, during and after their pregnancies to varying degrees.

Exercising While Pregnant – What SHOULD You Do?

The consensus on exercise during pregnancy comes down to two thoughts:

  1. Continue to do any activity you have already been doing prior to getting pregnant.
  2. Do what YOU feel comfortable with.

And what it comes down to is FEELING. Heart-rate monitors might give you a ballpark, but mother’s intuition is the rule all of my clients swore by. One of my clients, Shannon, told me, “If I felt good that day, I might push a little harder; if I felt bad or tired, I scaled back.”

As Norma explained to me, “For me what was most important was to treat my pregnancy as an event in my life, not an illness. Oftentimes, I found myself second-guessing myself because of what women do ‘traditionally’ while pregnant. I also found that listening to my body was key when it came to figuring out how I should do a workout.”

Women who have done intense exercise prior to becoming pregnant may experience social pressure to slow down more than they are prepared to or feel is necessary. Remember every woman’s experience and needs will be different. If you did CrossFit or ran triathlons before pregnancy, you can probably do a lot more through your pregnancy than women who were relatively sedentary.

Agatha told me about her experience, doing CrossFit until she was 30 weeks pregnant: “I found that during that time, I felt comfortable doing almost everything, just adjusted for lower weights and going slower. The hardest part for me was adjusting my mindset. I had to get used to the idea that I was probably going to finish last, that I would lift less weight, and that I had to slow down. I kept my doctor informed of my workouts and she was very supportive. The key was to listen to my body and how I was feeling.”

Doctors Just Don’t Understand

Sometimes you encounter doctors who are overly cautious about exercise and pregnancy. This could be due to their own concerns about legal repercussions, it could be they don’t understand the type of exercise being done, or they could just be conservative in their approach. Make sure when choosing your doctor that you discuss exercise and find a doctor whose views are in alignment with your goals.

Indeed, Norma switched doctors four times during her first trimester until she found a doctor who was in line with her vision. Don’t be afraid to stick up for yourself and what you want – this is YOUR pregnancy.

There is a great book I recommend to all my clients who are expecting. It goes into detail about the benefits of exercising while pregnant, both for the mother and for the unborn child – Exercising Through Your Pregnancy by James F. Clapp III, M.D. It could also be a useful tool in enrolling your doctor in your goals!

The Benefits of Exercising While Pregnant

As a coach looking at it from a “performance” aspect, I am a firm believer that being a fit pregnant mom is imperative for the hours of labor looming on the horizon. The act of giving birth is a tremendous physical event requiring strength and endurance. Don’t you want to be in great shape for this type of marathon event?

“I think staying in shape helped me so much during labor,” Agatha told me. “I had to push for two and a half hours and I was absolutely exhausted, but my doctor knew I could do it because I had been staying in such good shape. If I had to do it over again, I would have just done MORE squats – because that pushing time was ALL squats.

In addition, both Shannon and Norma expressed the time they set aside for exercise helped them stay saner, that it was valuable “me” time during their pregnancies.

My coaching tips for working out while pregnant:

  • Remember every woman’s experience of pregnancy and exercise will be unique.
  • Use your internal barometer – do what YOU feel comfortable with.
  • Peace of mind is important – don’t do anything that will have you wondering later if you shouldn’t have done it. The last thing you want is guilt if something should go wrong.
  • Pregnant or not, exercise is a great MIND cleanse as well as body cleanse.
  • Keep the bigger picture in mind – this isn’t about your performance on the workouts anymore. This is training for your health, your baby’s health, and in preparation for “event” day.
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Friday Link Love

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It’s time for Friday Link Love again! What is “link love”? It’s when you share some of your favorite reading, favorite blogs, or inspirational posts.

This week you can learn which style of yoga is best for you, read about the cost of success, and be inspired by one woman’s journey battling an eating disorder or another woman’s loss of a pregnancy and her marriage, and how this turned out to open new doors for her.

I have posted excerpts from each blog so you can see a sneak preview . Click on the blog title to read more!

The Death of the Dream Could Be the Birth of Unprecented Possibility – Pathofpossibility.com

“What I have found to be true in every case––in my personal life and my writing life––is that the death of the dream creates the space for what is actually intended to come through: what is, in the end, a better fit than we ever could have imagined. And often, it is so wildly off the mark from what we imagined, that it can take a long time to settle in with the strange bedfellows––or writingfellows––reality presents us with…”

The Cost of Success – CrossFitLA.com

You’ve felt it before. You’ve finally decided to tackle something that’s been on your mind for a while. You’ve even created a vision of what it’s going to look like when you’re all done and your excited! Then it happens — it comes time to start and there’s something stopping you. You think about it and you’re “confused,” you’re frustrated before you start, what looked so bright and shiny just a day ago feels like a weight you are now carrying around. You start telling yourself it’s “impossible” even before you try…”

How to Find the Right Style of Yoga for You – Lifehacker.com

“Yoga offers a host of health benefits, including stress relief and mental clarity, but many people don’t think it’s for them. There are, however, so many approaches to yoga—Ashtanga is a fast-paced flowing style while Kripalu combines gentle movements with a philosophy of compassion and mindfulness—that if you are interested, you should be able to find a yoga style that fits your needs and reap these great benefits. Here’s how to get started (or continue) on your individual yoga path.”

From Thin to Fit – An Anorexic’s Story – Games.CrossFit.com

Focusing her competitive drive on CrossFit has helped Emma break free from her eating disorder. To keep from getting her ass kicked at every workout, Emma has started thinking, eating, and exercising differently. When she ate well, she did better. If she returned to poor eating, she’d fall behind. CrossFit challenged her to change, gave her a new focus, and offered her a tangible way to track how she was doing on the road to health and fitness.”

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